In The Still Of The Night

Many people turn to science and psychology to provide explanations to solve their problems. If you have given them your telephone number, that was an even bigger mistake, because they will continue to talk, even when you're not there in person! Perceptions of events and our responses to them determine …

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Stop Apologizing

Lois used a scarf to protect her hair from the wind and grabbed a sail to use as a walking stick on our journey to the intersection. Determine your purpose of learning and practicing something. Later, I gradually discovered that the reason lay in the way I drank water. That …

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Stay In The Present

During this time, we learn about the world--through formal, informal, and social education from those around us--find our place, and discover who we are. It's what makes us all individuals, and it's actually what allows us humans to be successful as a society - because our strength doesn't come from individuals …

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Life After Suicide

Because of this, our disclosure validates another person's experience and invites them to disclose themselves. Think of two lovers or sibling quarreling, but each remains in the established personal space. She couldn't get her oboe to sound the way she wanted because she couldn't seem to make a reed right …

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Inner Work = Outer Change

Refuse to sit still for self-inflicted verbal beatings any longer, and dam the flow of negative messages coming into your brain. Rather than accepting and learning to live with his own ambivalence, his Clotish reaction made the decision for him; Some of my Asian friends were similar to me, but …

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A Sense Of Indisputable Knowing In Your Body

But if we can open to our experience, stay conscious, and remember that we are larger than any one emotion, we can at minimum begin to transcend unwanted feelings, and often we can dispel them, since full, sincere acceptance tends, in time, to dissolve negative or unwanted feelings such as …

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Don't Expect Attachment Every Day

It's the process of routinely turning our awareness and actions away from distraction and instant gratification and toward building our dreams, one piece at a time. Next to the positive rules in your life, write down how they work for you and help you with your energy and attitude. Reaching …

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How Can I Be Recognized?

Whilst the above applies to women having their second or subsequent baby, this does not mean that home is not safe if you are a 'low-risk' woman having your first baby. Though your loved one may wish to live at home, they may not like the idea of having outside …

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You Show Me Wrong From Right

With insulin resistance, we have a perfect storm involving two primary ingredients on which cancer cells thrive. Adolescence is a time during which important skills must be obtained in preparation for adulthood. When the heat is at its peak, then use attention to guide it up the back to the …

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I Am Considerate

They must understand your need to differentiate, become honest, and define yourself, and they must be willing to move toward rather than away from these dynamics. My mother collected newspaper clippings that chronicled his journey from inner-city street fighter to CEO of a major Chicago corporation. From a doctor's perspective …

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People Power

Regardless, it helps to have compassion for why you do the things you do--and put the effort into finding ways to cope that are less harmful to you and others. Lemon balm is shown to bind to iron and free radicals in the body, which pulls the iron out of …

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Argue With Yourself And Win!

If you view nonattachment from the context of the box metaphor I presented earlier, then it is about being open to realizing that in any given instance you might see a side or angle of the box that you previously didn't see. As a reminder, the amygdala is responsible for …

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Rush Away From Your Own Ones

One analysis of the nutrients in a dozen vegetables found that, between 1975 and 1997, average calcium levels dropped 27 percent, iron dropped 37 percent, vitamin A dropped 21 percent, and vitamin C dropped 30 percent. I don't want to tell anyone how they should feel about a plant. I …

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Don't Expect Communion Every Day

The alchemy of the body is almost complete - Yang forced its way into Yin causing the transformation of the Yolk Sac. When you treat everyone like they might be a decision maker in a future boardroom, you leave yourself open to every opportunity that might present itself. You cannot become …

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Learn How To Be Assertive

In several studies on food addiction and weight loss, those who were treated using cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) combined with hypnosis lost twice as much weight than those who were treated with CBT alone. Which is why, here, I must reintroduce Gutfeld's law, which goes like this: If you contributed …

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Reset Rituals

Last, I use this model to explain why certain lifestyle changes like exercise and meditation can help supplement our recovery and give tips on how to best engage in them. On Sunday afternoon, after not being able to go more than 20 minutes without crying since it happened, I reached …

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Shut It Down

You need to injure him, then injure him again, and so on in a calculated, methodical fashion. Folks know that the messages in fairy tales are not the truth. At the end of this article, we'll look more into the importance of blessings and how they can encourage us to …

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Accept They Will Have Difficult Life Lessons

Ultimately, of course, the first two steps of the Four Steps are designed largely to enhance a person's ability to perform the Refocus step under his or her own reconnaissance. When our faith wavers, we often get ahead of ourselves and try to figure out what is going to happen …

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Use It, Don't Abuse It

Who knows, maybe one day we will be able to reset the clock and let it run as long as we need. You need to focus on recognizing the emotion of others and caring about it. I grew the netted field of love and happiness that I desired for myself …

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