The Summer Of 1983

By journaling, you'll realize that some mental models, like the Eisenhower Matrix, are just easier to see on paper. Tell her you're happy she's feeling good about herself, but you're not really that keen to head out, because you end up having a boring time while she satisfies her need …

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Healthcare Versus Self-Care

Whatever troubles you are going through only represent a tiny dot on your line of life. Move your arms straight forward and raise them up in front of you until they are up by your ears--modifying as necessary (see suggestions above)--and then let them drop down and swing behind …

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The Resignation Approach

Expectation is just a system of shortcuts our brains have developed to get through life without stopping every five seconds to figure things out. I turned off that constant hum in 2017 when I broke free from the fictitious Instagram perfection cult. And I am for certain that I came …

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The Next Step

Bring your attention back to the awareness of the variety of colours, shadows and reflections. Self- control is one of the more obvious expressions of self- regulation, but there are others, such as how individuals participate in the mutual regulation of interpersonal relationships where no one person has complete control …

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Keep Your Mind

Let me get on the dating site real quick for an example. Another dude came out in a Batman outfit and flexed while music from The Dark Knight played behind him. How good you feel about yourself (your self-esteem) is directly proportional to how much you are achieving, compared with …

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This Is You Trying To Cope

We continue to subsidize the mono crops and factory-farmed animal foods that inflame us and make us fat, while small, local producers supplying organic, whole foods get no help. Once you've chosen the room, get busy reinforcing it. It was plain, quilted leather and looked just as good carrying baby …

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The View From Jamaica

Because Pisces is the last sign of the zodiac, it was (and is) traditionally used to get rid of things and to banish them before the next moon cycle through the zodiac begins. By doing this you can track progress and identify any areas that still need attention. If you …

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Love Is Supposed To Be Freeing

For pregnant women who have to be careful with healing plants, chamomile (but not Roman chamomile, a different species) and lady's mantle are recommended as a healing duo for all phases of life. They feel a persistent level of anxiety and tension in almost everything they do and almost everywhere …

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The Healing Mindset

It got to the point where she couldn't stand to hear herself apologize anymore. Or maybe you think that you might be able to make something more out of your life, but the world isn't going to let you do that, and your peers aren't going to let you, either …

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Don't Be A Pretty Cheerleader

When this happens, knowing how to deal with solitude becomes extremely important, as it helps us avoid falling into depression and despair. Most of their interactions involved a crisis situation where he demanded an immediate reaction and resources from her team. You need new ways of thinking that don't come …

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Common Responses To Compatibility

I dig around until I find the green dress at the very back of the closet. Perhaps he was badly knocked about emotionally during the Second World War, as were many of the fathers of my contemporaries. As is the hallmark of all great relationships, she developed deep respect for …

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What Do You Look Like .

We don't need an outside agency to point out our behavioral danger zones, or urge us to toe the line, or even hear our nightly scores. Displacement Placing a feeling or action toward oneself on another object or person Being angry at yourself and kicking the dog Keep a close …

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The Summer Of 1969

Or the depression may have worsened to the point that a whole new treatment strategy needs to be administered under twenty-four-hour observation. The objective is not to drive yourself crazy (people tend to quit this exercise when they take on too much), but to slowly keep track of yourself. Depression …

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What Do You Feel Emotionally?

Acu-points offer effective relief for painful periods. One of the best things about learning poetry is that if you've learnt it off by heart the poem becomes part of you; I got tired of carrying our cloth napkins and stray socks and every other bit of random dirty laundry to …

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Exercise Your Body

In the same day, or even the same hour, people with BPD can demonstrate serenity, rage, despair, and euphoria. One can generate good thoughts that will create good emotions and thereby ensure good actions. You will be able to better navigate through life on a personal basis. In the wake …

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Cultivate Judgment

What is surprising is when smart people have formal discussions about important topics and still end up making really bad decisions that can result in disaster. Take a deep breath in for three seconds, exhale slowly for three seconds; Dr Jerry Jampolsky defines forgiveness as giving up all hope for …

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Offering Words Of Encouragement

In my article Parenthood Without Hassles--Well Almost, I included the Child's Ten Commandments. It does not permit cruelty to man or animal in any manner or for any reason. You'll find some of my favorite tasty recipes that are easy to make at home, as well as easy breakdowns of …

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You Don't Know What It Is

The treatment combines mindfulness practices with standard CBT concepts such as psychoeducation, cognitive restructuring, and behavioral experiments. Time spent with them and others in Asia, Latin America, and the Middle East taught me that I was severely crippled because my culture did not provide comparable techniques. A body-worker helps soften …

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Evaluate Your Time Usage

In one odd little study, psychologist Ibrahim Senay and colleagues at the University of Illinois demonstrated the benefits of this approach. In other words, there is a likely mismatch between the inside feelings and the external feelings a person projects to the people around him. But community involvement can be …

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Promoting A Culture For Learning

You might know the parable of the monk who comes down from the mountain. It is worth noting that, in the rocks and mines simulation, the artificial brain came to make the discrimination with a degree of accuracy that even surpassed that of experienced human sonar operators on a long …

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Wanting It To Go Away

God's Word gives us effective guidelines to follow. Personally, I still use Facebook, but now I use it the way I want instead of the way Facebook intended. There are still days when I white-knuckle it through each hour, waiting for the painful panic to subside a little more. This …

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Love Is Actually Accepting

Pressure is used in the same direction as the body hair (along arterial flow). Take some psychological testing, was one response. Finally, with the spectre of being scooped, Darwin felt the necessity of publication--and with the support and urging of his friends, he worked day and night on the manuscript …

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